Reasons to keep living ;

When you're having a hard day, week, month or year how do you keep yourself going? How do you keep up the fight and choose to keep living through the struggle? In my world, I have to set goals for myself. Adventures I want to go on, crazy activities I need to do and places I need to see are what help me get through all the bad days. 

Yesterday I did something crazy, something that was on the very top of my bucket list and something I have wanted to do since I was a young girl. Yesterday I went skydiving for the first time in my life. I have wanted to jump out of an airplane since I was little. I have always been a thrill seeker. I love roller coasters, I love adventure and I especially love the thrill of doing something completely insane! For me, skydiving wasn't just something on my bucket list that I couldn't wait to cross off, it was something me and my dad always said we were going to do together because I 100 percent got my thrill-seeking from him, but as you know if you have read my other blogs he is no longer apart of my life by his choice. So when my big brother and sister in law gave me my Christmas present last year which was a gift certificate to go skydiving I was so excited, but also heartbroken because my dream of skydiving always included doing it with my dad and that was so important to me. Obviously having this experience with him was not going to happen anymore so instead I used this to motivate me. I used my heartbreak and pain to keep me moving forward and to give me a reason to keep living and to show him that I can make it without him, that I can still accomplish my dreams on my own and show him I won't let him control me anymore. From the moment I jump out of that plane, I would be taking my life back and not letting my past control me anymore. 

The second I jumped out of the plane and saw the amazing sight of Grand Haven is the second I realized I was going to be okay. I realized that I can overcome my past, I can move forward and I am stronger than I ever thought I could be. Jumping out of the plane gave me new hope, gave me new insight into how beautiful this world can be and gave me a new look at my life. It showed me that if I choose to keep living I can accomplish all my dreams and make new ones along the way that include my kids, husband and other family members. I have found from this experience that if you set goals, set a bucket list and set adventures for you to do in the future it gives you the strength to keep going on the days when it feels like you can't go on. If you put your strength into crazy ideas and crazy adventures it will push you to keep going until you accomplish it and then right before your about to accomplish that goal make another one and when you almost complete that one keep going by making more. Push yourself outside of your comfort zone, out of your box and force yourself to do things that will help you move forward and heal. Go skydiving, go bungee jumping, throw a dart at a map and go where ever it lands, do crazy things because 1 you deserve it and 2 it will give you the strength you need to keep on living ;  

Always remember you are worth it, you are way stronger than you're giving yourself credit for and you can do anything you put your heart into. So from me to you please set those goals, set that bucket list and set your heart at accomplishing them. Remember you can do this, you are going to be okay and when the days get really bad just breath and remember you will survive because you are strong, you are a fighter and you are worth living for ;

With love;

Brittany

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